What’s a Cord Cutting Ritual, and how to do it?

Rajkumari Sharma Tankha

Have you ever felt yourself emotionally tied up with others? Like you have had a fight or a heated argument with someone, and  no matter what you do, you cannot throw their thoughts out of your mind? Even passage of time hasn’t helped. You may feel happy, sad or angry thinking about them even after months, so much so that these thoughts do not let you function, carry on with your life. At other times, even a brief talk with someone leaves you fatigued and drained out. A cord cutting ritual is a spiritual visualization practice for releasing unhealthy energetic ties to a person, place or situation. You sit quietly, imagine the cords linking you to them, cut them with scissors made of white light, then ground yourself. It is meant to ease the negative side of a bond, not end the relationship.

Why Do You Feel Emotionally Tied to Someone? Understanding Energy Cords

Well, that’s because energetically you are still connected. Some of your energy body is still with the person you have had fight even as some of their energy still exists in your aura.

Energy cords, as these are called, are formed during any interaction or relationship, especially those with strong emotions like love, anger, or sadness. When you feel peaceful and joyous thinking about others, understand the energy cords are positive and nurturing, while when you feel sad the cords are negative can drain your energy or keep you stuck in unhealthy dynamics.

But the good news is, you don’t have to suffer. You can easily disentangle yourself, and be free. The process of doing so is called Cord Cutting. In case you are thinking Cord Cutting will break your relationship with the person, worry not. It won’t. It just gently removes the negative aspects of the bond, creating space for healthier interactions and personal growth. Cord cutting is a gentle way to loosen these energetic attachments without judging yourself or the other person.

Actually, Cord Cutting is a very simple ritual, but a deeply personal and spiritual act of self-love, and empowerment. By doing this you release all that which no longer serves you, and create space for the growth of your own soul, its healing, and aligned relationships. It helps you reclaim your energy and live in an alignment with your highest self. Some spiritual traditions also describe such bonds as soul contracts.

How to Do a Cord Cutting Ritual, Step by Step

Think of this cord cutting meditation as a short, guided visualization that you can do at home with no special tools. To begin with, find a quiet corner where you won’t be disturbed. Create a comfortable sitting space, and light a candle – Sage or Palo Santo are especially helpful. Now, take a few deep breaths to centre yourself in your heart.

Then close your eyes and in your mind’s eye see yourself and the person/ place/ situation you want to cut your cords with connected through thin cords.

Now, picture a pair of scissors made of white light and lovingly cut each of these cords. Visualise the cords dissolving and yourself being surrounded by a ball of white light. Alongside say, I lovingly release all unhealthy attachments to [name or situation] and reclaim my energy. You can repeat this cord cutting mantra silently or aloud, whichever feels natural to you.

Thank the person/ situation/ place for the lesson they taught you, and send your love to them.

Now, visualise roots extending from your feet into the Earth, anchoring and balancing your energy.To make this step stronger, you can read about grounding and Prithvi Mudra.

Sit in this space surrounded by ball of white light for some 10 minutes before opening your eyes.

How to Enhance the Process with Crystals

Use crystals like Black tourmaline, Obsidian, or Selenite – these are powerful protection and cleansing crystals.

What to Expect After the Ritual

You may feel lighter, freer, and even more energised after a cord-cutting ritual. But it is also common to get emotional – tears may well up your eyes, or you may feel fatigued as your energy recalibrates. Be gentle with yourself. If the same emotional triggers keep returning, shadow work can help you understand where they come from. If you still feel pulled towards the same person, new energy cords may be at play, so repeat the practice with patience.

How Often Can You Repeat the Ritual?

As many times as you feel like, till you feel completely free of the negative aspects of person/ place/ situation.

FAQ  Frequently Asked Questions

Q1. What is a cord cutting ritual?
It is a spiritual visualization practice that aims to release unhealthy energetic ties to a person, place or situation. You imagine the cords connecting you, cut them with light, and close by sending love and grounding yourself.

Q2. Will cord cutting end my relationship with the person?
No. It is described as a way to remove the negative aspects of a bond, not the relationship itself. The aim is to make room for healthier interactions and personal growth.

Q3. What can I feel after cord cutting?
Many people describe feeling lighter, freer or more energised. It is also common to feel emotional, tearful or tired as your energy settles, so be gentle with yourself.

Q4. How often can I repeat the ritual?
As often as you feel the need, until you feel free of the negative side of the bond. If strong emotions persist, consider speaking with a counsellor or therapist as well.