MOTHERHOOD AT 40: PROS AND CONS

Dr Shilpa Saple

In today’s world, career has become very important for a woman. Women are no longer considering the traditional role of becoming a mother as their sole purpose of life. Instead, they try hard for personal and professional fulfillment through their careers and believe in the concept of “Age is just a number, and the love between a mother and child goes beyond all boundaries”. Having a career allows women to contribute to the economy and society as well as it provides financial independence and self-confidence. While motherhood is a significant aspect of a woman’s life and the idea of becoming a mother at the age of 40 requires an acknowledgement of the biological complications that come with increasing maternal age. While fertility decreases with age, it is still very much possible to conceive naturally and carry a child to term in your 40s. Many women are successfully enjoying motherhood later in life with advancements in reproductive technologies and a deeper understanding of maternal health.

Challenges at advanced age
Being a mother at 40 can come with its own set of challenges and it is very important to be aware of the potential challenges. One of the main challenges faced by mothers at the age of 40 is the physical aspect. Pregnancy and childbirth are more physically demanding at this age, and the recovery process can take longer than usual. It is important for these mothers to prioritize their health and well-being, making sure to get enough rest and exercise regularly. Fertility treatments may be necessary for conception, and the risk of certain pregnancy complications, such as gestational diabetes and high blood pressure, increases with age. However, with proper medical care and support, many women navigate these challenges successfully.

Benefits of Motherhood at this age
Becoming a mother at 40 creates a unique set of advantages. By this age, women usually have established careers, financial stability, and a strong sense of self which provides a solid foundation for raising a child. Additionally, research suggests that when it comes to parenting, older mothers tend to have more patience and understanding compared to younger ones.

The clinical aspect
While the woman can choose to conceive naturally at this age, since the chances are lower, she can resort to IVF with additional embryo biopsy to rule out abnormalities. Nowadays it is also possible to freeze eggs of the woman at younger age and then take the embryo transfer after 40, when the lady is ready for childbearing.

The emotional aspect
The emotional aspects of becoming a mother at the age of 40 bring unique experiences. It is filled with a range of mixed feelings and emotions. Mothers at 40 sometimes experience feelings of self-doubt or worry about being able to keep up with the demands of motherhood as this involves physical, financial as well as emotional consideration. It is natural to have doubts and concerns about starting a family later in life. However, it is very important to have trust in your own body, abilities, and instincts as a mother, regardless of your age as it is accompanied by a multitude of emotional considerations and transformations.
In conclusion, the motherhood journey at the age of 40 is deeply personal and fulfilling experience for many women. While it presents unique challenges but also offers a wealth of rewards and opportunities for growth. When considering starting a family later in life one needs to feel the journey with an open heart and a positive mindset.

Dr Shilpa Saple is Director – IVF, Consultant,
Reproductive Medicine, Surya Hospital, Mumbai